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: Any one got : suggestions on how to break the ice so to speak? Is there any chance that you and your fiance could make a trip out to see her?  IF she lives in or near a big city/interesting spot/tourist destination, you could take a trip there and see her on the way.  This is what we did (before we were engaged).  Julian flew ahead and had three days with his mother alone while I was visiting a friend out west.  Then, I met up with them and had 6 days in Vancouver (where Julian’s mother lives).  She was working, so Julian and I had the days together, and we visited with his mom at night.  It was a good way to get to know each other without putting too much pressure on either side — by not having to visit with her every minute.  ALso, we stayed at a near by hostel (in a private room), which helped in giving us some alone time while having some together time with his mother. Another idea, depending on your personalities, is for you to strike up a correspondance with her.  It’s easier than expensive, sometimes uncomfortable phone calls, and it’s a friendly sort of thing.  If you make the first step with a little note (maybe just a pretty card with a short letter in it), then the ball’s in her court — she can write you, call you or do whatever. Maybe your fiance will have some more insight on how you and his mother can meet and get to know each other, even if you can’t travel to meet face to face.   Good luck. Long distance in-laws can be tough…. –Barbara

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My fiance’s parents are divorced and his mom lives in Ohio (we live in Washington state).  In all the time I’ve known him he’s seen her twice (once when he went to Ohio for a week, and the other time when she went to his graduation from basic training in Georgia).  Needless to say they’re not very close, but I think he’d like to be a lot closer.  Chances are she will be invited to the wedding, and I’d hate for that to be the first time I ever meet her/talk to her.  "Hi mom, good to see you, I’d like you to meet my wife" just doesn’t sound quite right.  Now to make matter’s worse, the Army’s got him living in North Carolina, so even if she goes to visit him in the next three years, I still won’t get to meet her… any one got suggestions on how to break the ice so to speak? Lisa Davis I look inside my heart, I look inside my soul, I promise you, I will return….         –Enigma "River of Belief" MCMXC AD 1093 (02/13)

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